Lessons
Where to begin, there are so many!
Here are a few things NOT to say to someone you think/know may be battling to fall pregnant:
(Please excuse my sarcasm)
- Never give up hope, EVER! It breaks my heart when people tell me that they have given up hope and realised children just aren't in their cards. Its funny because someone actually told us that they believe if it hadn't happened it wasn't meant to be, implying they would never go through what we had been through to have a child. Which honestly speaking... is the easy way out! Having a child is just one example... if you want something badly enough - go for it!!!
- Life is hard, but we need to equip ourselves to get through it and get what we want.
- When you think you are going through a tough time, remember there is ALWAYS someone going through more than you and having an even tougher time than you... always.
- Be more aware of those around you - people around us are going through so much and even if you don't know what it is just be a little more sensitive. Being kind is so much easier than not!
- Be a little more sensitive - ladies that haven't had children are likely (baring those that don't want children) having some kind of challenges falling pregnant and women can really be insensitive with their comments / questions, even if they don't mean to be, when commenting or discussing such topics just be a little more self aware.
- Having a child is such a blessing - this isn't really a lesson for me but one I would really like people out there to realise!
- Its ok! Its ok to cry, its ok to break down, its ok to not cope and its ok to be facing infertility.
- Its ok to not be good at everything. I saw infertility as a major failure for a long time, but its not! Its something that is completely out of my hands and was given to me (us) for a reason. I still wonder what this reason is but this experience has without doubt made me change my perspective on many things in life, made me realise what is actually important and what is completely irrelevant. I also believe it will make us the best parents. When you have to fight this hard to get something, you will treasure every moment.
Here are a few things NOT to say to someone you think/know may be battling to fall pregnant:
(Please excuse my sarcasm)